Goodbye My 1st Fur-baby

Bailey Tillie Hoff 01/18/2004 – 05/19/2021 For 17 years and 4 months, I had the bossiest, independent and loving Shih Tzu ever. Bailey Tillie Hoff came into my life when I met her owners at a gas station selling her. My friend was buying one of her litter mates and they were desperately wanting to […]

Celebrating Anniversary Minus One

Anniversaries are weird.  I remember each and every anniversary that was important to Don and I.  However, what do I do with them now? Do I just acknowledge it in my head, smile and go about my day? Write out a sappy social media message with what would have been on said date?  To just […]

A Special Visit

I’m sick.  I have a cold and anyone that really knows me knows that I like to be babied and pampered when I am sick.  Well, when you are a widow, there is no longer a spouse to do the pampering. My stuffy nose was horrible last night and I tossed and turned. Then around […]

Trying to Re-Enter the World Again

Reentry Definition The act or action of reentering. The return of a missile or spacecraft into the atmosphere.  The act of rejoining as a participant or member.  I don’t have but one regret from the many years Don and I were together. My regret is that I didn’t maintain friendships.  For so many years (before […]

Wedding Ring Etiquette for the Modern Widow

Did you know that there is an etiquette to your wedding ring when you become a widow?  I never really thought much about it.  I never asked my Mom when she would remove her ring or move it to the right hand after my Dad crossed over. The thought never crossed my mind.  But apparently […]

Filled with Anxiety

Summer of 1995 I am filled with anxiety that I can’t seem to shake whenever I think about spreading Don’s ashes in Alaska.  I know that I will do it, but when I start to think about the plans and carrying it all out, I literally start to shake. I have little anxiety issues from […]

Holidays Bring the Tears

This was quite the surprise! Brought instant tears. I wanted to name this blog “Holidays SUCK”, however, that wasn’t exactly true.  The don’t technically suck, they just have a little less shine this year. I miss my Don, my god how I miss him. It has nearly been 5 months since Don died (7/7/14) and […]

55 Days and an Eternity to go ….

It has been 55 days since Don passed away.  I promise you that I am not mentally keeping a daily count of the days, but I do look it up from time to time.  I mainly wanted to see how many days it has been since my life changed forever. It’s been a weird 55 […]